Do you ever have the feeling that you are not yourself? Like the entire world is sitting in front of you but you can't reach it because you can't control what you do. A feeling something like that has become very much a big part of my life recently. I don't really understand why so I have decided to start blogging about it. Something about putting thoughts in to words and reading them to myself helps me work out what is really going on in my head. That is why i started this and that is why i will continue it for many years to come.
So what do I really mean by not feeling like myself... well I know for a fact that i feel old sometimes. Not older but truly old... Like my life has already been laid out and I what lay ahead is the same as it is now. I think I know the feeling this comes from but i don't understand why i feel it. It makes you feel like nothing you do in the world leaves a mark... like in a few years no one will remember you were even here. This is what people are supposed to feel before they die... you know the ideas that run though your head when you know you are not going to be alive anymore... when your time is up! I don't understand this feeling i am having because I am here to stay for many more years to come. I know life can be hard.. I have lived though some rough times and i have the scars to prove it. None visible of course but some people get close enough to see them. Some others think they have seen them but all they see is me protecting them from further harm.
Here is another idea i can't seem to figure out... I have spent my fair share of time thinking and talking about how i feel.(Not too much, I am a male) So why is it that i don't believe anything I say or think. Why does it feel like i am doing a lip service to the world by talking about feelings. Feelings I don't understand and things that I honestly believe I can't feel... I think of feelings in an intellectual way and that isn't what they are supposed to be... Not by description at least. Is that what feelings are? simple thoughts that make your mind believe they are more and cause major reactions in behavior and body chemistry. It is sad to think of emotions this way but that is how I see them... I don't have that intense drive of emotion that i expect from what I have learned in my life. Is it me... or is it the rest of the world fooling themselves in to thinking that these things exist because they are supposed to. I don't know the answer... I am a simple person that is fighting to survive in a world of endless information and lighting fast access to it. When you think of that it is amazing that we even have the ability to think on our own. Info is fed to us like animals with structured feeding times. We are fed what others believe we need to know and thus shaping how we think and how we live the rest of our lives.
I guess all this babble raises only one question... How do i break out... become or find who I really am in this finite world we live in?
Andrew
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Monday, June 14, 2010
Reflections and the Future
This is a little out of the realm of what I have blogged about in the recent past, what little I have blogged. But there has been something that has been nagging me for some weeks. One of those little feelings in the back of your head that has just been begging to get out. I have made no secret that sharing what I feel and think isn't easy. So I am going to take a step back to the days when blogging was new to me and FB and MySpace were my mediums of choice. As you can see I have evolved a little and I think it is time to reflect on the past.
It all started in the late winter early spring of 2008. Back in those days I was, at least from what I wanted to believe, happily married. Turns out that wasn't the case and it wasn't long before we were split and I was a complete wreak. It got bad enough that I have no memory of almost two months of my life. It was a complete emotional and mental breakdown. I consider myself lucky. I had a family that was there for me, not really here but on the phone, anytime I needed them. I can't even count the number of 3 am phone calls to my brother that he always answered. Hours of pacing back and fourth in my condo letting my mind race or just sitting on the floor crying. I eventually found professional help. With drugs, counseling, and a strong family backing me I was able to get on the correct path to becoming human again. I still cry today when I think back. Those were the bad times. It is easy to make myself believe or pretend everything is fine now. But I know I am not the same. I am hurt, damaged, and general scared of the future. Every time I make a corner in my road of life I find myself looking over my shoulder. I don't want my life to fall back in anything similar to the way things were but at the same time I want my life to move forward. But I'm I ready for such a step? There is the root of my fear. The fear that moving forward in my life means following some of the same paths I took before...
In the last few months my life has taken a huge step forward. First, there is my girlfriend. She has added something to life that is hard for me do describe. I want to say she makes me happy, but I don't want to make the suggestion that I wasn't happy before I met her. I think it is better to say she completes my happiness. Of course, not everything can be all happiness and joy. There are conflicts, stresses, and all the mis-communications that come with any relationship. But, we work well together and we have fun. Second, I am starting to see real progress on the financial side. It took over a year of endless juggling and shuffling to get all the pieces to fall in to place. There is still a long road head. If I can get the last pieces in place there are only two short years left before everything is taken care of. As long as I can maintain the status quo. Third, jumps back to the first one a bit and it is more about moving forward. I am starting to rebuild. It started with my girlfriend moving in with me and making plans for a larger apartment. I have to watch not to fall down the same slope I did before. I was so focused on building my life to where I wanted it, I lost sight of what I needed to do to make my life complete. Being a male, my mind thinks of money and physical things first. Feelings take a back seat in most mens minds. It is a curse of evolution and it takes a lot of effort to break though and bring them to the front.
Enough, I have worked though what I wanted too and I am stopping now.
It all started in the late winter early spring of 2008. Back in those days I was, at least from what I wanted to believe, happily married. Turns out that wasn't the case and it wasn't long before we were split and I was a complete wreak. It got bad enough that I have no memory of almost two months of my life. It was a complete emotional and mental breakdown. I consider myself lucky. I had a family that was there for me, not really here but on the phone, anytime I needed them. I can't even count the number of 3 am phone calls to my brother that he always answered. Hours of pacing back and fourth in my condo letting my mind race or just sitting on the floor crying. I eventually found professional help. With drugs, counseling, and a strong family backing me I was able to get on the correct path to becoming human again. I still cry today when I think back. Those were the bad times. It is easy to make myself believe or pretend everything is fine now. But I know I am not the same. I am hurt, damaged, and general scared of the future. Every time I make a corner in my road of life I find myself looking over my shoulder. I don't want my life to fall back in anything similar to the way things were but at the same time I want my life to move forward. But I'm I ready for such a step? There is the root of my fear. The fear that moving forward in my life means following some of the same paths I took before...
In the last few months my life has taken a huge step forward. First, there is my girlfriend. She has added something to life that is hard for me do describe. I want to say she makes me happy, but I don't want to make the suggestion that I wasn't happy before I met her. I think it is better to say she completes my happiness. Of course, not everything can be all happiness and joy. There are conflicts, stresses, and all the mis-communications that come with any relationship. But, we work well together and we have fun. Second, I am starting to see real progress on the financial side. It took over a year of endless juggling and shuffling to get all the pieces to fall in to place. There is still a long road head. If I can get the last pieces in place there are only two short years left before everything is taken care of. As long as I can maintain the status quo. Third, jumps back to the first one a bit and it is more about moving forward. I am starting to rebuild. It started with my girlfriend moving in with me and making plans for a larger apartment. I have to watch not to fall down the same slope I did before. I was so focused on building my life to where I wanted it, I lost sight of what I needed to do to make my life complete. Being a male, my mind thinks of money and physical things first. Feelings take a back seat in most mens minds. It is a curse of evolution and it takes a lot of effort to break though and bring them to the front.
Enough, I have worked though what I wanted too and I am stopping now.
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Escape from the fun days
Does everyone remember the fun days of being young? I do... but, now that I am more knowledgeable, I look back at those simple days and wonder why I thought they were fun to begin with. The more I think back the more I realize that the only reason they were fun is because I didn't know anything more existed. It is one of those times when if you knew more you would have done things differently and had real fun!! Maybe this is just a side effect of growing up being very closed off of the social world that existed in the towns and bigger cities.
In some ways I lived in a world cut off and was able to experience things other people only saw in movies or read in books. Living in a place where you could be outside yelling at the top of your lungs and no one was close enough to hear you is an experience I know few other people have had. If you can imagine living in a place where you could literally be the center of the world because you were the only one there. Now that I am typing my ideas... it really does sound fun time. I hear others talk about growing up in the city. The things they did and how they lived. I can't even imagine growing up that way and I am sure many people can't imagine how my life was out among the farmland.
It is amazing how the experiences differ between everyone. The stories of even those I went to school with were very different than mine. Many of the people I grew up with still live near where we all grew up. I am one of the few that moved away. It is hard not to think about it like I escaped something. Like I was the lucky one that got away. I know that isn't the truth of the situation, but it is what we think about when we hear that type of story. Escaping the small town to make it big somewhere else. Except in the movies many of these stories end in tragedy, heartache, and a genuine feeling of missing the simple life.
Personally, I don't count out the possibility of going back and living there again. Moving back to the simple fun life and wide open spaces. Just like the cliche, the problem with doing so is that I am part of both worlds now. I don't really fit in to the social norm of the city lifestyle but my life is too fast paced to live in the nearly stagnate rural world I came from.
It really comes down to the fact that I haven't found where I belong yet. I try new things and I am always working toward making myself a better person. I learn a little at a time. One day the right situation will present itself and my 'escape' will have come to an end and I will be exactly where I should be. The pursuit of life is not an easy one...
Andrew
In some ways I lived in a world cut off and was able to experience things other people only saw in movies or read in books. Living in a place where you could be outside yelling at the top of your lungs and no one was close enough to hear you is an experience I know few other people have had. If you can imagine living in a place where you could literally be the center of the world because you were the only one there. Now that I am typing my ideas... it really does sound fun time. I hear others talk about growing up in the city. The things they did and how they lived. I can't even imagine growing up that way and I am sure many people can't imagine how my life was out among the farmland.
It is amazing how the experiences differ between everyone. The stories of even those I went to school with were very different than mine. Many of the people I grew up with still live near where we all grew up. I am one of the few that moved away. It is hard not to think about it like I escaped something. Like I was the lucky one that got away. I know that isn't the truth of the situation, but it is what we think about when we hear that type of story. Escaping the small town to make it big somewhere else. Except in the movies many of these stories end in tragedy, heartache, and a genuine feeling of missing the simple life.
Personally, I don't count out the possibility of going back and living there again. Moving back to the simple fun life and wide open spaces. Just like the cliche, the problem with doing so is that I am part of both worlds now. I don't really fit in to the social norm of the city lifestyle but my life is too fast paced to live in the nearly stagnate rural world I came from.
It really comes down to the fact that I haven't found where I belong yet. I try new things and I am always working toward making myself a better person. I learn a little at a time. One day the right situation will present itself and my 'escape' will have come to an end and I will be exactly where I should be. The pursuit of life is not an easy one...
Andrew
Wednesday, March 17, 2010
New layout and look
Forgot to mention in the last few posts... I updated the layout for the Blog. Includes a mobile layout for those that read this on the go. That is where I spend most of my time reading blogs!!!
So if you are running some RSS reader to read this... Click the link and check it out.
Andrew
So if you are running some RSS reader to read this... Click the link and check it out.
Andrew
Posting it up again
Whats up?
I am starting to get used to this no free time thing. It has driven me to start using my time very differently. I am spending less time working on each item and moving on to the next project more quickly. Just like this short little blog. 20 mins ago I was doing DNS and VPN maintenance. Quick note... just added a bunch of new features to my Google Apps account, going to be testing out the Google Code repository. Might might migrate from my SVN to that if it works well. Don't really know if I need that level of system for what little I play around with. But you never know!!! I spent about 30 mins doing some simple cleanup and some VPN software updates now I am blogging. I am trying to keep myself from spending 3 hours just playing around with features of the new stuff I find. Never been able to keep myself settled down when there is something cool to go check out.
Just got a new HD for my laptop to fill the second empty slot. Taking my system to the big time with a 640GB 5400 2.5" SATA drive. Picked it up at a bulk rate for only 100 bucks. I filled up my current 160 GB main drive about three days after I installed Windows 7. I am going to dump all my offline files and storage data on this second drive. Maybe in 6 months or so I can pick up a new main drive. Something with a 16MB buffer and a 7200 rpm spin. That will boost the system performance by a huge amount. Who knows maybe even a RAM upgrade... the hardware will support 8 GB!!! I think I need to think about a server to replace my 6 year old server before I start upgrading the now only 12 month old laptop. You never know these days... I may not have time to work on such things.
well that is enough for this update. I will be in touch!!
Andrew
I am starting to get used to this no free time thing. It has driven me to start using my time very differently. I am spending less time working on each item and moving on to the next project more quickly. Just like this short little blog. 20 mins ago I was doing DNS and VPN maintenance. Quick note... just added a bunch of new features to my Google Apps account, going to be testing out the Google Code repository. Might might migrate from my SVN to that if it works well. Don't really know if I need that level of system for what little I play around with. But you never know!!! I spent about 30 mins doing some simple cleanup and some VPN software updates now I am blogging. I am trying to keep myself from spending 3 hours just playing around with features of the new stuff I find. Never been able to keep myself settled down when there is something cool to go check out.
Just got a new HD for my laptop to fill the second empty slot. Taking my system to the big time with a 640GB 5400 2.5" SATA drive. Picked it up at a bulk rate for only 100 bucks. I filled up my current 160 GB main drive about three days after I installed Windows 7. I am going to dump all my offline files and storage data on this second drive. Maybe in 6 months or so I can pick up a new main drive. Something with a 16MB buffer and a 7200 rpm spin. That will boost the system performance by a huge amount. Who knows maybe even a RAM upgrade... the hardware will support 8 GB!!! I think I need to think about a server to replace my 6 year old server before I start upgrading the now only 12 month old laptop. You never know these days... I may not have time to work on such things.
well that is enough for this update. I will be in touch!!
Andrew
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Posting on the fly
I have a new way to blog. With the wordpress android app I now have access to my blog and comments while sitting anywhere. This should help with my posting more often... I think I see a re-occouring theme here.
This is just one more reason I love my android phone. Having the physical keyboard is just nice when you are typing emails or blog posts, like this one. The software keyboards can slow me down a bit and there isn't anything to feel when you are typing. Now for those that like the software keyboards that is availabe too. Nothing like having the choice of how you want to type each time you do.
I think that is the point of open source option of android. a hundred different hardware options with nearly all the same apps no matter what you choose. And there are some killer apps out there. Like Touchdown for MS Exchange access. Nothing I have found beats it on any phone.
So if you are looking for a smart phone in the near future. Take a look at the android line of phones. Available on nearly any service and in all the styles and colors you can think of. Who knows you might even comment on my blog from your android.
Until next time.
Andrew
This is just one more reason I love my android phone. Having the physical keyboard is just nice when you are typing emails or blog posts, like this one. The software keyboards can slow me down a bit and there isn't anything to feel when you are typing. Now for those that like the software keyboards that is availabe too. Nothing like having the choice of how you want to type each time you do.
I think that is the point of open source option of android. a hundred different hardware options with nearly all the same apps no matter what you choose. And there are some killer apps out there. Like Touchdown for MS Exchange access. Nothing I have found beats it on any phone.
So if you are looking for a smart phone in the near future. Take a look at the android line of phones. Available on nearly any service and in all the styles and colors you can think of. Who knows you might even comment on my blog from your android.
Until next time.
Andrew
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Hello from the long lost relem of endless winter
The past: Ok I know it has been forever since I posted. It should have taken me so long to get back in the swing of things since the fall of my prior job and company and the promo to the new job and new company and such. But I am here now so that means I am getting back on my feet and running. I think the holidays had a lot to do with my general lack of will and could also be a huge reason for the 20+ lbs weight gain. I know I sound like a woman complaining about that... it is more about felling good then being skinny. The move to the new apartment didn't help with anything either. For some reason I ended up with more unpacked boxes in this new place. I didn't have much to pack to begin with and I am still trying to figure out what is in them without opening them.
The now: So what is going on here... a little of everything these days. I have had so much going on that I have all but dropped out of the MINI scene. I have been spending most of my time learing my new job and doing side work. NVCS has really picked up in 2010. I think more and more people are trying to my computer systems run longer to save money in these shaky times. That just means for a few dollars I can show up and clean and do some general work on your systems. I am even thinking about a flat rate on system cleanups. It can be time consuming but it is a low cost endevor for me and customer satisfaction is the best part of my job. There is just something about helping someone out and taking a system that is trashed and make it as clean and new as possible.
The future: I see a very bright future ahead of me. Work is good, home isn't bad. There are always things that anoy you and in time you either get used to the fact that is how it is... or you work to change it. I have a bad habbit of just sitting back and waiting for it to change itself. I am working to change that habbit and start working hard to make everything better. Life just doesn't fix itself and it isn't complex just hard.
Lets see if I keep the posts flowing this time. Doing this makes working though issues in my head easier.
Andrew
The now: So what is going on here... a little of everything these days. I have had so much going on that I have all but dropped out of the MINI scene. I have been spending most of my time learing my new job and doing side work. NVCS has really picked up in 2010. I think more and more people are trying to my computer systems run longer to save money in these shaky times. That just means for a few dollars I can show up and clean and do some general work on your systems. I am even thinking about a flat rate on system cleanups. It can be time consuming but it is a low cost endevor for me and customer satisfaction is the best part of my job. There is just something about helping someone out and taking a system that is trashed and make it as clean and new as possible.
The future: I see a very bright future ahead of me. Work is good, home isn't bad. There are always things that anoy you and in time you either get used to the fact that is how it is... or you work to change it. I have a bad habbit of just sitting back and waiting for it to change itself. I am working to change that habbit and start working hard to make everything better. Life just doesn't fix itself and it isn't complex just hard.
Lets see if I keep the posts flowing this time. Doing this makes working though issues in my head easier.
Andrew
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